I’m just so darn taken with my man! He’s off at a rehearsal now, so I don’t mind mushing all over the place.
I think I’ll go back to the beginning for this one…
For those who might have heard the rumor, yes we did meet — kinda — on the internet. Last spring, I was bored bored bored after my BF/MoH Rita moved back to the Okanagen, so I joined a free dating website on a lark (mostly, frankly, to laugh at the funny profiles). Turns out, there was an online forum/message board thing, where I met a bunch of very super people, who formed a group who did a bunch of stuff together. Mostly single, though occasionally paired up, we went to barbeques, concerts, camping and — Best Time Ever — whitewater rafting.
I really wasn’t interested in dating anyone. I was in my last year of school, and I had no idea where I’d be moving to at the end of the year. All I was sure of was that I didn’t want to stay in Vancouver, and I didn’t want to feel tied to the city by the emotional bonds of a relationship.
In the summer, I had noticed, in passing, the profile of a man from Gibsons who seemed clever and nice and liked a lot of the same things as me. I put him on my favorites list (for a lark) and had a fun reparte in the ‘word association’ thread on the forum late one night with him. Still, I didn’t want to date anyone, so I didn’t contact him.
Fast forward to the week of the BC Teacher’s Strike in October 2006. I was attempting to respond reasonably to the rash of anti-teacher vitriol that was in a thread on the forums with some success (ok, none). Out of the blue comes an email from “wandercoast” thanking me for my sense and perspective in that particular thread. I responded to the email, he responded back; a few minutes later we were on MSN chatting briefly. Steve mentioned that he was interested in meeting some of the people he had chatted to on the forums; I told him there was a bunch of people going bowling that Friday. Turns out, Steve was coming in to town for his mum’s birthday that weekend, so it was easy enough to come in a day early and see these crazies in person.
The day of the bowling, I was off school in the afternoon and spent the day moving my furniture from one bedroom to the other. By nine pm I was hot, sweaty, tired and more than a little cranky from having to take my bed apart with a hammer, instead of the more customary screwdriver. I considered not going bowling (I hate bowling) but there were people — this guy Steve among them — who I had told I would be there. One quick shower, jeans & sneakers later, I was out the door.
I got to the bowling lanes just before ten pm. I was greeted by friends and sat down beside an empty chair. It seemed like, oh, a second later that this guy sits down next to me, introduces himself as Steve, and asks in a very cheeky manner, “so do you REALLY hike and camp?” Ordinarily, I would have told this stranger exactly where to get off the bus, but instead I laughed and said I did.
The next five hours are a bit of a blur, but we talked for just about all of them, and I remember liking him very much, and hoping he liked me too. There was a brief hiatus driving to the pub after bowling, when he got a ride with someone else, but I was so pleased when he sat down next to me on a brick wall at the pub. We were still talking when the pub closed at three am, and I drove him to John & Gayle’s house in Delta. I had been noticing that he had been touching my knee in the pub, and giving off ‘interested’ body language, so I found myself hoping he might even kiss me goodnight (shocking, really, as I don’t usually warm up to people so fast).
When we reached his parents’ house, I stopped the car all optomistic… and he patted me on the shoulder, said goodnight, and booked it out of my car as fast as he could.
(I suspected I had read the situation wrong, but turns out he really liked me too, and didn’t want to scare me off by being all forward — silly boy!)
I was very sad (woe!) but as we had talked in general terms about hiking some weekend, I still thought I might see him again. I sent him an email on Saturday to make a suggestion about hiking… he sent me one back… we talked by MSN or phone for three hours a night all week. By Tuesday night he was coming to visit me for the weekend; by Thursday night we were in a fully-fledged relationship.
When I picked Steve up from the ferry on that stormy Friday night (the ferry was almost two hours late), he rushed across the parking lot to see me and gave me a huge hug. He didn’t want our first kiss to be in the BC Ferries parking lot, so he made me drive us (holding rain-wet hands in the car) up to the lookout on Cypress, overlooking the lights of Vancouver for our first kiss…
At the end of the first weekend, we hiked up the Lynn Creek loop in the rain, soaked and holding hands, and irrevocably in love. Instead of a relationship that tied me to Vancouver, Steve’s strings gently pulled me to the Sunshine Coast, where I always wanted to be and didn’t know it. We spent every weekend together, ten days at Christmas (at which time we decided to live together) and I moved to Gibsons in February, just over three months after our first meeting.
It is now just over nine months since that fateful bowling adventure, and we are still madly in love, newly engaged to be married, and constantly grateful for the most fragile of circumstances that brought us together.
Steve had, the day before we met, ended a very brief relationship with a woman on the mainland, and had resolved not to date off the Sunshine Coast again as the commuting was just too difficult. What if he had stuck to that resolve? He could have not sent me an email about the strike, or could have not wanted to come bowling (he hates bowling!), or the teachers might not have striked at all. What if I had gotten to the bowling alley fifteen minutes later? He might have gone. What if I didn’t go at all?
I hate to think of universes in which we might not have met.
I adore him.
He adores me.
He accepts me exactly as I am — better yet, he loves me exactly as I am, flaws and all.
He is so smart I have to work to keep up with him.
He calls me on it when I’m being snarky.
He encourages me in everything I do (except the snark).
He is so crazy talented (we have a mutual admiration club with a membership of two) that it takes my breath away.
His hugs are the best place to be. Ever.
Ah well. And he’s at rehearsal.
So, on a much lighter and sillier note: